Live Like No One Else

Posted by on Dec 11, 2013 in Good Ideas & How To's, Life & Adventures | 8 comments

 

Dave Ramsey the Christian financial guru has a saying, “If you want to live like no one else. You have to live like no one else.” Chris and I live by this motto. I’m not saying we haven’t had a few bumps in the road, but we always come back to this idea. Dave Ramsey looks at this quote from a financial aspect, however this lesson is applicable for many, many circumstances.

During the first few years of our marriage Chris was in the Air Force, on the bomb squad, and I was working at a little nail salon, as a nail tech. I made just enough money to cover my booth rental and have a little left to put towards savings. And I’m sure you’ve heard the saying “You don’t join the military for the money.” Yes, the military comes with it’s perks like healthcare, housing allowance, and a grocery store with lower prices. Needless to say money was very tight.

At the same time these perks did not seem to make up for the fact that Chris had been in a war, and had a dangerous job. Did I mention he disabled bombs? I was in a perpetual state of worry, with intermittent states of peace that came from God. We both came to the conclusion that even though we found a sense of security in the military, security wasn’t worth its cost. We wanted a better way of life.

Eventually Chris served his time (6 years) and was honorably discharged from the Air Force, and I quit working at the salon. Because of Chris’s expertise in the AF, he was able to work for companies who contracted him to do environmental clean up on old bombing ranges, and these companies paid him handsomely. Our first stop was Puerto Rico.

We had lavish ideas about what Puerto Rico would hold for us. I remember this one specific day dream I had before we moved. I was riding this sweet little beach cruiser bicycle, with a woven basket on the front of it, and I would ride this bike to go pick up fresh fruit. We could hardly wait for the warm beautiful weather, cute little tropical homes, and friendly faces to greet us.

A month after Chris got out of the military and I left the salon, reality hit us and it his us hard. All those day dreams were just that, dreams. PR was the hottest and most humid place I have ever lived in, and bicycling was out of the question. You see we were living on island just off the coast of Puerto Rico called Vieques, (it was 5 miles wide and 21 miles long). There was no central AC, only air conditioning window units that barley worked, $5 for a half carton of milk, dogs that roamed under your feet at restaurants (I’m not kidding), and being a blonde haired blue eyed girl, lets just say I stuck out and got one or two nasty looks from some of the women. I defiantly felt like we were “Living like no one else.” We only lasted there 4 months.

I’m not saying Vieques didn’t have it’s charms, because it did, but they were the kind of charms you would like only for a week or so, while vacationing. After living PR our days of traveling and environmental clean up were far form over.We hopped all over the United States during for 6 years. We even went back to Vieques one more time. The saying “fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me” never rang more true. Although this was exciting, adventurous, and paid well, our life was lacking stability and a sense of security, because once a bombing range was cleared and cleaned the job was done, and we would be left scrambling to find the next company that was hiring. Again we found ourselves wanting a better way.

Chris decided about half way into his environmental career that he needed to go to school if we wanted a stable lifestyle that paid well. So that’s exactly what he did. And because of the internet he was able work and go to school at the same time. College never seemed like an option for me. One simple lie kept me from even trying. I’m not smart enough. LIE. That with a few people in my life telling me college isn’t for everyone, was enough to make me believe it.  For a while there I had my own nail salon. I enjoyed it but unfortunately it was not very profitable. Ouch. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again expecting different results. I started to feel this way. I kept pursing nails giving it all I had, and in return it gave me very little. I meet some really wonderful women along the way, but unfortunately not enough to pay the bills. Not to mention I wanted more.

On-line school could only take Chris so far, it took him to his associates degree to be exact. Then the day came, the day that we always new would come. He would have to stop the contracting work and go to a 4 year university to finish his degree. That left me with a choice to make. I could either stay in my comfort zone and give nails yet another go (insanity), or I could make a big change and do something completely different and way out of my comfort zone. I could hear the words “You want to live like no one else, you have live like no one else” resonating in my mind, and I knew what I had to do, I had to go to college (Tomorrow I will be finished with my first semester of college).

I know it’s easy to think that all this happened in the amount of time it took you to read this. However, don’t be fooled my journey has taken many years, some of which were times of self-doubting, overcoming lies, and disappointment. There was lots of praying and crying out to God for direction. My story is not close to being done. I’m not exactly sure where my life will go, but I find comfort in knowing my Heavenly Father is there for me on a daily basis, gently whispering, “Trust me to lead you, know that I go before you, in every step that you take.”

“If you want to live like no one else, you have to live like no one else.” What might this look like for you? Maybe this means starting school, changing your carrier path, maybe it means starting a savings plan, eating healthier, ending an unhealthy relationship, quitting a bad habit, or joining a support group. Whatever your case may be, living like no one else means taking a different path than what is considered “normal”, braking out of your comfort zone, in order to live happier and live like no one else!

“If you want to live like no one else, you have to live like no one else.”  taped to our pantry door in the kitchen.

 

<3

T

 

 

Image Source: Tabbitha for Turnip Tootsie

8 Comments

  1. Tabbitha, Wow what a beautiful start to a beautiful story! I love you more than you will EVER know, and am so proud of you and Chris for all the ways you have been an exemplary example to all of us. I’m so glad I have got to ride on the coat tails of both of your lives.”You can do it” and You are. See Y’all soon!!! 🙂

    • Aww! Thank your for all your love and encouragement.

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      T

  2. A M A Z I N G!!
    And remember, many times it is the people who love you the most, telling you you can’t do something….they only mean to protect you. I have no doubt you can do it…Mayb be will take some crying, struggling, and crying again..but it is possible. This Semester in itself proved it!! Love you Tab, Tali

    • Thank you Aunt Tali, I love you too!

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      T

  3. Thanks so much Tabbitha! Incredible and true words that hit home for virtually everyone! All the best, keep trusting and achieve what you can conceive!

    U Ken

    • Thank you! You and Aunt Tali have been such an inspiration in my life. You have such a beautiful family! Thank you for all your support and encouragement.

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      T

  4. This is great!! I love it, I think ill post some around my house! Thank you for this! I believe we all talked about him once, maybe I need his book!!

    • Thanks Hun! And I think you’d really like his book!
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      T

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